50 Ways to Put Christ in Your Marriage And Live Happily Every Day
Vanessa and Deron Snyder
Authors Vanessa and Deron Snyder learned the real meaning of true love going through their own trials. A successful and loving marriage is about surrender, forgiving and fighting, praying, sharing and caring for your partner. Most importantly they discovered, making God the center is the key.
Here in a compact and easy to read format, they present 50 specific, practical steps that you and your spouse can follow to make Christ part of your marriage -- and you can live happily ever after. This book provides encouragement and empowerment to couples to persevere through the hard times and know you’re not alone. The 50 steps and the corresponding Scriptures will propel you toward a stronger, happier, and more fulfilling marriage.
Vanessa and Deron are journalists living in Florida.
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1. KEEP YOUR SPOUSE LIFTED UP.
Remember your spouse’s needs and wants, and lift them up in prayer. You know—or should know—your spouse better than anyone else. Your spouse has strengths and weaknesses, but also goals, dreams and daily challenges. Don’t forget the desires of your spouse’s heart when you pray.
For where two or three come together in my name, there am I with them.
2. GO TO GOD TOGETHER IN PRAYER.
This is the most powerful tool you have as a couple. Although it’s important that you each have private time with God—praying for your spouse, marriage, family, etc. —there’s a unifying effect when husband and wife join in their petitions. It brings a calm to situations and reminds you Who’s in control, even if the two of you are on different sides of an issue. In addition to your personal prayer life, be sure to pray together regularly.
Study to show thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth.
3. STUDY GOD’S WORD TOGETHER.
The bonds of your relationship with God and each other are strengthened when you read God’s Word together. Reading the Bible has a way of centering couples on who they were called to be. We can’t use God’s Word as a resource if we don’t know it, particularly as it relates to marriage. And even if you know the Word, there’s always more to learn and glean. Dedicate a regular time to “see what sayeth the Lord.”
For the word of God is living and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.
4. ALLOW GOD TO BE THE EQUALIZER.
Sooner or later, couples reach an impasse about something big—or small. And if we’re not careful in how we resolve the “small” things, they can add up and evolve into major issues. No matter the scope or subject when you disagree, let God be the source to equalize any problem. You can’t go wrong using God’s Word as the final say, which keeps you in the right perspective.
So we fasted and petitioned our God about this, and he answered our prayer.
5. FAST TOGETHER.
Fasting is an act of discipline that shifts your focus from the physical to the spiritual. It’s a demonstration of faith and sacrifice that helps bring clarity to whatever you’re dealing with, while also taking your mind off yourself. Do this together and strengthen the spiritual bond.
Then come, let us go up to Bethel, where I will build an altar to God, who answered me in the day of my distress and who has been with me wherever I have gone.
6. CREATE AN ALTER IN YOUR HOME.
It’s beneficial to have a place set aside specifically for entering God’s presence, a place that’s reserved for you and God. It doesn’t have to be a room with a physical altar; it can be any area or space that you designate for regular communion. Pick a place and dedicate it as your altar, where you can come alone and as a couple to pray, meditate and commune with God.
Therefore let us stop passing judgment on one another. Instead, make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in your brother’s way.
7. JUDGE NOT EACH OTHER’S SALVATION.
You may know your spouse well but you don’t know how he or she relates and communicates with God. Each person’s relationship with God is intimate and personal. Sometimes one’s upbringing includes traditions and rituals that might be in opposition to another’s practices. But we each have a unique and special connection with our heavenly Father and it’s not our place to judge others’ relationship.
Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.
8. COMMIT TO FIGHT FOR YOUR MARRIAGE.
Many couples give up at the first major crisis, when a tragedy occurs or troubles continue to mount. It might seem easier to throw in the towel and move on, try to start over without your spouse. The pain, disappointment and challenge of trying to keep a marriage together are overwhelming. But it’s worthwhile. The enemy desires marriages to fail. God’s Word tells us to fight against the enemy’s schemes.
Blessed is the man who finds wisdom, the man who gains understanding, for she is more profitable than silver and yields better returns than gold.